In Exile

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The tension is here.




    Does money make you mean? In a talk at TEDxMarin, social psychologist Paul Piff shares his research into how people behave when they feel wealthy. (Hint: badly.)

    To learn more, watch the whole talk here»

    I have a theory about this, which is completely unsupported by data and might be totally wrong.

    I think people like to believe that their choices matter. We don’t like to consider the role that luck and circumstance plays in human life, because it makes us feel powerless and ultimately like maybe we should not even bother to get out of bed in the morning. So we find ways to imagine that we can make our own destinies and that we are in control of our own lives.

    To an extent, of course, we are. Our choices do matter. But so do chance and privilege.

    But I think most people want a narrative of their lives that is about something other than dumb luck. So if you become powerful or wealthy, you start to think, "This happened because I worked hard," because you did work hard. You think, "This happened because I didn’t give up," because you didn’t give up.

    But THEN there is this nagging feeling that haunts you, because you know that other people also work hard and that other people also don’t give up, and that they have not experienced the same success you have.

    In short, deep down you know that the game of Monopoly, through chance or through systemic injustice, has been rigged in your favor. And that makes you feel like everything is random and meaningless and you are unworthy of your good fortune, and I think many people respond to that feeling defensively: They want you to know that they made a really amazing decision to buy Park Avenue, a bold and dangerous decision. And yes, they started the game with more money, but lots of people start the game with more money and DON’T make the bold and brilliant decision to buy Park Avenue.

    And in the end, this desire to build a narrative of your success that gives you agency within your own life leads to a less compassionate life. It also often I think leads to echo chambers: Because any challenge to your “I earned it” worldview is a direct attack on your feeling that you are in control of your life, you have to surround yourself with people whose own life experiences do not contradict that worldview. This is the only reason I can think of that wealthy people are literally more likely to take candy from children.

    The challenge—and this is a challenge for all of us—is to internalize the roles luck and systemic injustice play in our lives while still continuing to try to be good and useful creatures. 

    Glad to see that John is spending his vacation ruminating on human nature and inequality. All is right with the world.

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    [x] “One does not simply dancey dance into Mordor”


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    The Battle of Helm’s Deep already has its own official LEGO version, but the licensed set has nothing on this mind blowing set built by Lord of the Rings fans Rich-K and Big J.

    As where the official LEGO version features 1,368 pieces, this custom job utilizes over 150,000 LEGO building blocks to recreate the classic scene from J.R.R. Tolkien’s epic novels. In addition to the staggering number of bricks used for the installation, Helm’s Deep also includes 1,700 minifgures. via io9

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    "Reading was my escape and my comfort, my consolation, my stimulant of choice: reading for the pure pleasure of it, for the beautiful stillness that surrounds you when you hear an author’s words reverberating in your head."
    Paul Auster
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    #books  #reading  #auster 


    omfg i did not fucking expect that

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    Book titles rewritten to get more clicks, Upworthy style

    Little women’s one made me choke on my tea

    This one from the link though:




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    "Nothing in life is meaningless; even the word ‘meaningless’ has meaning."
    Jamel Duane (via tsundokuponders)

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    catsandmens asked you: you should totally do that pissed sherlock conducting an orchestra xD

    So this happened. Pissed but still passionate conductor Sherlock.

    That is just the most wonderfully silly thing I’ve ever seen.

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    Maratus volans, better known as the Peacock Spider. The brilliant colouring is not just for decoration but also to attract females. The peacock spider has earned its name when he courts with his mate through dancing. Like a peacock, he raises his two magnificently coloured flaps and dances for the female.

    Good Monday Morning. Enjoy this dancing Peacock Spider.

    HAHAHAHA lovely!

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    sixth element

    A compilation of the aurora borealis from late August to mid-November 2013.

    The scenes where mainly captured in the areas near Nordreisa, Troms, Norway.

    ~ This is the best, the most breathtakingly beautiful compilation video of the Aurora Borealis I’ve ever seen. Thank you so much macsacandcrack, you obviously understand my obsession and you’ve made my day 😀


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    #northern lights  #aurora borealis